- i’m learning to love the life i’ve lived so far, be more present in the present, and appreciate/work with the cards i’ve been dealt than to daydream implausible things.
- i’m still working on being a better friend to myself though - working on accepting my flaws, healing instead of hurting, letting go the heavy and just breathing/relaxing.
- i’m going to take on an existential approach in life. not full on, but aspects of it. (i’m not really sure what i’m doing, just existentialism is the closest thing to how i’m feeling i think… whatever i’m happy with it)
- Got an apartment with my first ever post-college, non-relative roommate! (and have been having the time of my life since then)
- Donated my hair to locks of love
- Won tickets to something! Russell Brand at Chicago Theatre :)
- Had the best month of my life: October 2013, month filled with love, nostalgia, adventure, and other unforgettably amazing memories including:
- Going back to my Alma Mater with two of my best friends on homecoming weekend for the football game, traditional fall activities and to see Nick Offerman
- Knocking out a serious bucket list item: met the sexiest man alive Jesper Anderberg from one of my favorite bands in the world, the Sounds, after seeing them play twice in one day with another best friend. Oh AND poutine was involved between shows :)
- Having the best birthday ever, filled with love and surprises from my colleagues, roommate and friends.
- Went on a blind date set up by my parents (never again - at least I can say I did it though!)
- Attended a matrimonial banquet aka: speed dating for brown people (in which I can now confirm that the awkward hysterical embarrassing clip montages in TV shows/movies are spot freaking on - as bizarre as it was, I spent the afternoon with my college bud prior, reminisced about good times, and made my standards of Indian men more realistic and significantly less Bollywood )
- Went to D.C. (religious convention) and Kentucky (to visit one of my best friends and her babies, my lovely godchildren)
- Bought a PS3 (very recently but it’s been super amazing - been able to bond with my brother and be in my own people drama-free world)
- Started a journal of thought-provoking quote, memories, inspirations, artists, suggestions, etc etc., something I’ve been meaning to do and got around doing!
Overall, I’d say a great year. I’m getting closer to becoming the person I want to be, being more self-assured and a better friend to myself. I’m going to continue on in this journey of self-discovery, love and transformation.
Here’s to 2014 being spectacular :)
Women have to do so little to be declared “man haters”. All we have to do is name male violence for what it is. It is at this point the patriarchally minded step in and throw the “man hating” cliche into the mix. But in doing so, what men have done to women is forgotten, brushed under the carpet, ushered into the corner with candy with the hope it’ll be forgotten.
But for a man to be declared a “woman hater” he has to do so much more. Even when men abuse, rape, prostitute and kill women, they’re excused… His victim’s actions are looked for as if his hatred was a logical reaction to her own actions.
The liberals forget how ingrained woman hating is… from that moment a baby is killed for being female, to the child’s growth, through adulthood- womanhood is something to be despised, to be destroyed. Women are hated freely and easily. Men become the untouchables… we are not allowed to criticise them, lest we be labelled men haters.
But if all it takes to be labelled a man hater is to speak out unrelentlessly against male violence, to despise the violence done to my sisters, then I’ll wear that label… I’ll write it myself, and I’ll scream it from the rooftops. I’d rather be a man hater than stop addressing male violence for what it is.